Yesterday, I had an email from someone who is on my Facebook. I've never met him before (at least I don't think so), but I suppose he has seen photographs of my husband on my FB and blog.
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I trust David, but man... did my heart stop when I read that email. Then I thought nah, it must be spam or a bad attachment that they want to trick people into opening. But as I scrolled down, I realised it wasn't an attachment that I had to open afterall, it was a picture that was pasted directly at the end of the email. So I scrolled all the way down.
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He said in the email that it was urgent so I replied to him immediately, I can imagine his anguish. It's not my husband in that pic but I guess for him, it's still terrible news. Anyway, I'm not mad at this guy for sending me this scary email. Actually I'm thankful, cos if it were indeed my husband up to no good, I damn well wouldn't want to be kept in the dark. Then it occurred to me... oh poor thing, this guy had to snoop and then find out his GF is having jolly chats with other men on OK Cupid (which I assume is a dating website).
Some of you may say... chatting is not cheating, lah!. Yes, people in relationships can have friends of the other sex. But honestly, if you're in a relationship... is there really a need to go specifically looking to make new male acquaintances? I really don't get it.
If you're in a relationship and still fishing around in bars, or dating websites/apps then you're most definitely looking for something better to move on to or to cheat. That's my opinion. So if you catch your partner making 'friends' online (secretly behind your back) and they say that it's harmless, just to make friends. I call bullshit on that.
What do you think?
does looks like David to me =x but I think David probably doesn't wear v necks and more shirts?
ReplyDeleteYah he doesn't wear v necks at all... Even if we are out shopping he won't even look at them (he thinks it's very gay). But he's super casual always round neck tshirt and shorts.
DeleteWow it actually looks quite a bit like David to someone who only sees photos/hasn't seen David in more than a year. I totally agree that flirting online or friending online is still unfaithful behaviour, on both genders. If I truly love my future husband, I will delete my Tinder account. Dear future husband, you may hold me to this! ;)
ReplyDeleteCompletely agree Estelle! So uncanny! In fact if this had happened after only the first few dates with David, I probably would have thought ehhh it IS him in that pic. Lol But now, after seeing his face for 3 years, tht pic is not even close enough to be his German doppelgänger lol
DeleteThere are plenty of younger SPGs waiting for their golden moment..heh heh
ReplyDeleteyah yah.. PLATINUM moment.
Deleteis that not anthony bourdain?
ReplyDeleteI like anthony bourdain. he's on my hot older men list.
DeleteI caught my ex-boyfriend sexting a friend, which I forgave him for. But later caught him on Okcupid messaging other women. The messages went along the lines of ''although the site doesn't give us a high compatibility rating, I beg to differ. Coffee?' When I confronted him about it, he said it was innocuous and that he was never looking to meet with other people. Do you buy that? Anyway I dumped his sorry ass.
ReplyDeleteAnd I know what you mean about that grey area - cheating/ not cheating. A lot of my acquaintances said, 'Well, technically he didn't actually cheat.', with them defining cheating as the physical act of intercourse. But there really isn't a concrete definition to cheating, is there? At the end of the day, if you're ashamed to have me find out about something, then it clearly isn't platonic.
ReplyDeleteSOOOOO glad you dumped his sorry ass.
DeleteI consider it cheating.. the intention is definitely there.
''although the site doesn't give us a high compatibility rating, I beg to differ. Coffee?' WTF ... i wanna punch him for you.
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ReplyDeleteyou are married?? dats disappointing...
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