(This is the first of a series of letters written for my baby Myla Rae. Will post the rest of the letters in the following days/weeks).
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Open when- You fail at something very important
My Dearest Myla Rae,
So, you fucked up. I know you are upset.
But as my mum (your grandma) always tells me whenever I'm disappointed with my failure at anything... IT'S NOT THE END OF THE WORLD.
In fact, one of my best memories of childhood... was not being afraid to fail. I had friends who would cry or be scared shitless when they fail. Not me. Of course I didn't want to fail, but I was raised to not be afraid of failure itself. You see, if I passed an exam, I would get one present as a reward. But if I failed, I got two! One for trying, and the other to cheer me up. Well, that's from my mum (with my dad it was a different story, he would get very upset so we would keep my failures a secret from him. Haha). But with my mum, I can share anything with her. She always has my back, and she is by nature a very optimistic and encouraging person. I hope to be the same way to you too. I don't want to raise a fearful child. So please ah, don't be afraid of failure.
The present is not your future. Learn from your mistakes and move forward. Perhaps you can write down a goal for the near future and work towards that. Being disappointed and depressed over something you did badly is not going to change the situation you're in. Instead, find a way to fix the problem (or cover it up and forget about it lol)... and move on.. move on! I promise you, there's so much more to life than this one failed endeavor. All I want is for you to try your best, and not hurt anyone in the process. I am proud of you despite your struggles and setbacks.
Life is so short, don't spend it dwelling.
Love,
Mum.
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Open when- You fail at something very important
So, you fucked up. I know you are upset.
But as my mum (your grandma) always tells me whenever I'm disappointed with my failure at anything... IT'S NOT THE END OF THE WORLD.
In fact, one of my best memories of childhood... was not being afraid to fail. I had friends who would cry or be scared shitless when they fail. Not me. Of course I didn't want to fail, but I was raised to not be afraid of failure itself. You see, if I passed an exam, I would get one present as a reward. But if I failed, I got two! One for trying, and the other to cheer me up. Well, that's from my mum (with my dad it was a different story, he would get very upset so we would keep my failures a secret from him. Haha). But with my mum, I can share anything with her. She always has my back, and she is by nature a very optimistic and encouraging person. I hope to be the same way to you too. I don't want to raise a fearful child. So please ah, don't be afraid of failure.
The present is not your future. Learn from your mistakes and move forward. Perhaps you can write down a goal for the near future and work towards that. Being disappointed and depressed over something you did badly is not going to change the situation you're in. Instead, find a way to fix the problem (or cover it up and forget about it lol)... and move on.. move on! I promise you, there's so much more to life than this one failed endeavor. All I want is for you to try your best, and not hurt anyone in the process. I am proud of you despite your struggles and setbacks.
Life is so short, don't spend it dwelling.
Love,
Mum.
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