Congrats! That’s great! Sorry if this sounds insensitive but the biggest question is if the kid is Adam or your ex’s? I Guess for us readers Adam and you had just begun? Or maybe it started some time back but wasn’t written on your blog.
Oh most definitely Adam’s 😳. We have been together for some time now. Just that I didn’t announce on blog until some months after. My previous marriage ending also I announced only after the dust settled.
If I had not met someone new, I would have been very happy with just one child, especially a girl. But having met Adam, and finding out he wants a big family (3 more kids) , we did come to a compromise ok ... definitely 1 more. Possibly another one after that (in later future not soon). But def not 3 more (want me to die ah?!) 😂
So we tried for 1 more, and got him surprisingly quick. We decided to just start trying because it might take like 8mths or more to conceive (based on stats)
Great news! Call me old school but trying for a kid before marriage? Why the hurry? I would have guessed this might have been an accident - a lovely accident by the way.
The tight timeline . On one hand fast is good Cos like imagine the stress of trying and trying for a baby and failing month after month. Then I wld think omg it’s cos I’m old and now I might not be able to give Adamson a bigger family like he wants. Though he did say it wld be ok, we wld find ways around it, but still, stress la.
Then now it happened like way too fast hahahahaha. Ideal wld have been 3 -6mths after we start tying for baby, that way, myla is older, we are more settled etc. Who cld have predicted it wld have happened the first try. But we are happy.
Yes all sorted last year. We never had separation period. A separation ( of I think 3 years )is needed if ur married for less than 3 yrs or if there are no official reasons for divorce that u can file, then have to separate for 3 yrs before filing.
No offence, no worries. Started dating him some time after interim judgement and final judgement. The divorce was very fast, Cos uncontested and me and my ex agreed on the terms beforehand already... I don’t take a cent of the assets (condo etc) , don’t claim any Wife maintenance (alimony) but I take full legal custody of the child. All in all, divorce took 3months plus.
Some qns absolutely insensitive. Obsessed with Holly, and yet gloating that she (like everyone else), has challenges to overcome. No one has a perfect life, and it is of no one's business why the divorce happened....whose child (omg are u serious) etc. You won't be caught asking such qns point blank face to face, so don't hide behind ur screen to do this shit
Congrats! That’s great! Sorry if this sounds insensitive but the biggest question is if the kid is Adam or your ex’s? I Guess for us readers Adam and you had just begun? Or maybe it started some time back but wasn’t written on your blog.
ReplyDeleteOh most definitely Adam’s 😳. We have been together for some time now. Just that I didn’t announce on blog until some months after. My previous marriage ending also I announced only after the dust settled.
Deletehow do you feel about having another child? i remember that you prefer to have only one child, did you change your mind about it?
ReplyDeleteIf I had not met someone new, I would have been very happy with just one child, especially a girl. But having met Adam, and finding out he wants a big family (3 more kids) , we did come to a compromise ok ... definitely 1 more. Possibly another one after that (in later future not soon). But def not 3 more (want me to die ah?!) 😂
DeleteSo we tried for 1 more, and got him surprisingly quick. We decided to just start trying because it might take like 8mths or more to conceive (based on stats)
Great news!
DeleteCall me old school but trying for a kid before marriage? Why the hurry? I would have guessed this might have been an accident - a lovely accident by the way.
No ah not accident. We were consciously trying. Just didn’t expect to hit jackpot on first try.
DeleteMyla have your eyes and hope your baby boy will take from you too! pretty eyes on little adam would be super adorable!!
ReplyDeleteThank u
DeleteCongrats!What is the Biggest challenge faced/facing with this decision?
ReplyDeleteThe tight timeline . On one hand fast is good Cos like imagine the stress of trying and trying for a baby and failing month after month. Then I wld think omg it’s cos I’m old and now I might not be able to give Adamson a bigger family like he wants. Though he did say it wld be ok, we wld find ways around it, but still, stress la.
DeleteThen now it happened like way too fast hahahahaha. Ideal wld have been 3 -6mths after we start tying for baby, that way, myla is older, we are more settled etc. Who cld have predicted it wld have happened the first try. But we are happy.
what are Adam's and your thoughts about marriage?
ReplyDeleteOk ah. Both not opposed to it. We knew this road of be unconventional and bumpy if we chose to take it. And we did.
DeleteHas your divorce with David been finalized/legalized? It takes some time doesn’t it, from separation until legally divorced?
ReplyDeleteYes all sorted last year. We never had separation period. A separation ( of I think 3 years )is needed if ur married for less than 3 yrs or if there are no official reasons for divorce that u can file, then have to separate for 3 yrs before filing.
DeleteIs Adam also Eurasian?
ReplyDeletenope, he's Chindian
Deleteahhhh i thought he is Filipino cos of his name
DeleteNo offends but u dated Adam while still going thru divorce right? Timeline seems really close..
ReplyDeleteNo offence, no worries. Started dating him some time after interim judgement and final judgement. The divorce was very fast, Cos uncontested and me and my ex agreed on the terms beforehand already... I don’t take a cent of the assets (condo etc) , don’t claim any Wife maintenance (alimony) but I take full legal custody of the child. All in all, divorce took 3months plus.
DeleteHow long have you been together? everything is happening so fast! But Adam looks like he's an excelelnt hands-on dad. Congrats Holly!
ReplyDeleteA few months only. But I’ve known him about 9yrs.
DeleteNow for some real pics of the full self (and not cropped ones which just your face)..:)
ReplyDeleteThese are real pics. They’re Not cropped ... 😐
DeleteHi Holly, mind sharing what triggered the divorce? You both seemed fine.
ReplyDeleteSome qns absolutely insensitive. Obsessed with Holly, and yet gloating that she (like everyone else), has challenges to overcome. No one has a perfect life, and it is of no one's business why the divorce happened....whose child (omg are u serious) etc. You won't be caught asking such qns point blank face to face, so don't hide behind ur screen to do this shit
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