Our Shibari Fetish

Shibari is the art of rope bondage. Also known as kinbaku in Japan. It is done for pleasure and involves at least two people: the dominant person doing the rigging and the submissive person being tied.

It first caught my eye a couple years ago, when I happened to fleetingly come across a picture of a woman with her boobs tied up. (I would later come to know that this form of tying is called a chest restraint). I can’t quite put my finger on it but there was something erotically appealing about that picture to me. I did mention to my husband that I wanted to add ropes to our bedroom routine. But I was heavily pregnant with MJ at the time so we put that on hold.

On hold until damn long lol. Because busy with life... and also he’s well skilled in the bedroom so there wasn’t a big push to try new toys.  

But recently we had the time to explore it. And oh boy! It’s so worth the wait. Adamson surprised me a few weeks ago by buying some Shibari ropes of different lengths/colour/Brands. 

I did ask, why can’t just use normal cheap rope instead? We didn’t know the answer but assumed that Shibari ropes would be kinder to the skin or something and not give you like rope burn.

It turns out, even among the different brands we bought each had a different texture and feel to them. 

My favourite is this red one. I think he got it off Shoppee (I’ll ask him later, u can dm me if u want the link to it) . Super long 15m. It’s soft and ties well. And the colour really pops with my skin tone and makes it look nice and tanned. 

The 50 shades of grey ones are too short to do anything elaborate but ok for a simple restraint like hands only or simple chest harness only. They are sold in a pack of 2, each is only 5m long for $30ish which is quite ex ah. But my main gripe is they feel less soft and more nylon-ish. Not a favourite of mine but if I didn’t know better or have better, I would probably use it quite happily lol.

After using rope specifically sold for Shibari practice, I would say that you can use any rope for this. Just make sure it’s soft like a cotton or other natural fibres like jute. Don’t get a very plasticky synthetic type material, those feel sucky. Not comfortable. For a start maybe a 10m long one at around 4-8mm thickness. 

Here are my favourite 3 Shibari ties and what I like about each.

Chest harness

Love it because I’m quite a boob fetish person. I think it looks quite beautiful. And I love the feeling of pressure and restraint in the chest area. This kind of tie is actually very comfortable and can be worn for a long time. 

Overhead Harness

Very submissive position. I love when Adamson does this tie on me. And it’s very hot (for me la) when he moves me into whatever position he wants by holding the Shibari ropes on my back. 

Only con is that it’s not the most comfortable to have your arms pulled in this position for an extended period so it’s suitable for a short time only (30mins ish). Otherwise arms start to go numb. 


Hishi Karada

This is a full body harness which we would like to try next. It’s very erotic looking, and would make a great anchor for adding other ties like for suspension etc. But we need a little more practice first. :)    

Stay tuned and go explore and enjoy too! 

P/S: Some readers asked me some months ago if I have implants.  Can’t you tell from the shape? It’s natural, but what do you think?